Everything is connected. And if everything is connected I think responsibility is sometimes spread too thin among all the constitutive elements of reality to pin blame on any one thing. And I’m not conflating all of history into a single abstraction—I’m talking about events and the process that leads up to them. Sure, you can cut that process up to try to pin blame on something, but why would you? Enter: morality.
I think morality is too often a tool for people to protect themselves. “If I do x, y, and z, I’ll be safe.” Some people even only care about other people just because they don’t want to perceive others’ suffering. They find it unpleasant, a liability, or something generally to be fought against. But I think pain and suffering are inevitable. I also don’t think pain and suffering are necessarily bad.
Let’s say “pain” is pain, and suffering is fighting against pain. In my experience, if I fight against pain it makes the pain worse, but if I allow myself to experience pain then the pain is more manageable. Makes sense to me that if I add the element of “fighting against” to pain that I’m making things more complicated and, therefore, potentially less manageable.
So, I’m trying to label things as good or bad less often—to be less judgmental. I’m also trying to be less judgmental of being judgmental. I’m just going to allow myself to become whatever I become. I think that’s what happens if I stop trying to keep pain out and allow pleasure in—I will become something. What will I become? We’ll see. Why am I doing this? I think it will make life easier and more rewarding for me (that’s been the result since I started).
I also think that a lot of judgements are dishonest. If I have a thought it doesn’t mean anything about me. If I do a thing it doesn’t define me. If I have an idea it doesn’t mean I own it. A lot of people put thoughts and action on a pedestal, as if what I think or do DOES define me and DOES cause whatever else follows. I think it takes more than doing something to make something happen; more than thoughts, speech, or action to define an individual. And if the judgement is grounded in a morality meant to push away pain, well, that strikes me as further dishonesty. But I’m not going to judge someone for being judgmental because I don’t think it matters if someone is judgmental or not.